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Blogging about NOT blogging

April 18, 2008

So, it seems I never blog anymore. I was actually thinking about it today, because I read an article that I wanted to blog about...and it took me like 30 minutes to fully read the article, and then about 3 hours to get over how depressed it made me feel. And by the time I got to the end of that 3 hours, I was listening to Abba when I should have been blogging, and all I wanted to do was rock out to "Dancin' Queen" Who has time for blogging?

Oh, wait...that's what I am doing now. Haha. This blog will now be delayed while its author rocks out to Dancin' Queen. Feel the beat of that tambourine, baby!!!

**PAUSE**

I'm not sure why, but it seems like it's been awhile since I have had some alone time that I have actually enjoyed. Lately, I have felt a lot of pressure to be socially active and datingly inclined. I think that's what bothered me about that article I read. It was some single mother ranting about how you should settle for a man while you are young because by the time you are smart enough to realize you need a man to take care of certain more practical, less romantic needs, you will be too old and ugly to attract a good one.

Yes, I know I'm oversimplifying a bit...but not a lot. If you really feel like you want to read the entire article, you can find it here.

I think the thing that really got to me is that, yes I do occasionally worry about my future if I don't find some sort of partner to share the practical burden of day to day living and growing old. But I don't necessarily think that's productive, nor do I think "settling" for someone or some specific type of relationship or lifestyle is going to necessarily ensure my future will be less burdensome on the whole. The author of the article seems to feel that a healthy response to a fear of being alone is to, as she reports, remain in a relationship that would prompt someone to say "“You’re so lucky, you don’t have to have sex with someone you don’t want to.”

Because, you know, at least the woman who is having unwilling sex HAS a MAN!

Jesus fucking Christ. I don't think I have anything to add to that. I'm just going to play a bunch of '80's music in my house alone, and be happy that my fear of facing a future in which I am potentially alone for eternity exempts me from coercive sex. Suddenly being single doesn't seem like a bad thing at all.

Posted at April 18, 2008 10:08 PM

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Meh, that was a depressing article. I got the strong sense that she was generalizing her issues onto all women (especially with that crack about denial or lying). I felt sad for her, because she writes with a lot of feeling about being boxed in by her choices and she seems to have a lot of regrets. But extrapolating her situation to all women of a certain age seems like an enormous stretch. Crank up the tunes, I say.

Posted by: kcb at April 19, 2008 10:57 PM

I say keep on rockin. there are plenty of fish in the sea, and they come around when you least expect it sometimes. cultivate an understanding of the world around you, and pursue interesting hobbies. you'll find other people who will appreciate those things too. The only people who need to worry about maintaining some type of "porn-star" body in order to get a lover are the ones who only have a body to offer, and nothing else.

and keep on blogging so the rest of us can hear about all the good stuff you're reading :)

Posted by: doviende at April 19, 2008 11:29 PM